Being Shy, yet Social

“Two are better than one, because they have a good reward for their toil. For if they fall, one will lift up the other; but woe to one who is alone and falls and does not have another to help”

– Ecclesiastes 4:9-10

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Your friends are probably some of the most important human beings in your life. I know they are for me. But how do you make new friends when you absolutely hate socializing? Well, that is what we’re going to explore right now.

The first thing to consider is what your priorities in life are because once you have this, you have a foundation for where to find your friends, but also how much time you should spend with them. I would suggest to list out your top five priorities, in order, and find where friendships fit in that order. For example, my list is God, school, family, friends, and then my partner. The most important thing for me is my spiritual health and then my education, so that’s where I’m going to spend the most time. My friends and my partner are at the end of this list because (1) they’re generally lumped together as my partner is one of my best friends and (2) because after everything else in the list, it’s going to be a little difficult to spend time with them.

Once you have placed your priorities, you can schedule out blocks to do what you want with your friends. For example, on Thursday and Friday between 10am and 1:30pm, I have a block for appointments and social activities blocked around my study time (I still don’t have weekends blocked out yet, though). This is also the time where I can go to clubs and do other various activities.

Another thing is to find where you can form friendships within your other priorities. For example, my first priority is God and every Sunday I go to church. So, when I’m at church, I can go and meet new people and make friends who share my faith. Another one is school. In my classes, I can meet my seat mates and become friends with them. By doing this, we already have at least one thing in common, therefore there’s a talking point.

Sometimes talking to people is hard and anxiety inducing (I know it is for me), but most of the time you’ll meet those few outgoing people who will take you under their wing and will become your greatest friends. If you don’t happen to meet those people, you can find someone who looks a bit left out and talk to them, that’s how I met my best friend throughout my entire high school career (she’s still my best friend) in my freshman year.

I really hope this helped.

Lots of love,

Meghan ❤

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